Opening Prayer
Ice Breaker
Resting in the Text: Ephesians 5:18-33 (p. 19 of The Meaning of Marriage)
Discussion Questions:
- How does being filled with the Spirit, that is, knowing that you are unconditionally loved by Jesus, help a person to submit to their spouse (52)?
- How does self-centredness pull us away from having a healthy marriage (56-57)?
- Timothy Keller writes, “…you only discover your own happiness after each of you has put the happiness of your spouse ahead of your own, in a sustained way, in response to what Jesus has done for you” (58). Describe a time when you choose to put the happiness of your spouse or someone close to you ahead of your own happiness. Describe how you felt afterwards.
- Keller tells us, “If two spouses each say, ‘I’m going to treat my self-centredness as the main problem in the marriage,’ then you have the prospect of a truly great marriage” (65). What is your response to that statement? Give an example of what would that look like in a marriage?
- We read on page 68 of The Meaning of Marriage, “only out of the fear of the Lord Jesus will we be liberated to serve one another” (68). What does the author mean by this statement?
- After writing about the effect on his own life of delving deeply into the writings of C. S. Lewis, Timothy Keller asks, “What, then would the effect be if we were to dive even more deeply into Jesus’s teaching and life and work?” (74). How would you answer that question?
- Read “Two Ways to ‘Love’” (pp. 75-76)
Closing Prayer Time
Farewell to Shadowlands 
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